When someone acts wrongly, we may need to protect our boundaries and respond appropriately. But we do not have to carry anger until it harms our own heart.
Their Wrongdoing Need Not Become Our Burden
We are responsible for our response, even when we cannot control another person’s actions.
Protect Yourself Without Seeking Revenge
Boundaries can be firm without being driven by the wish to hurt someone back.
Accept Reality Without Adding More Pain
See what happened clearly, then avoid repeating the story in your mind until the pain grows larger.
Peace Means Not Passing Harm Forward
When we do not respond from anger, the cycle of hurting one another has a chance to end with us.
What You Can Do Today
If something is weighing on you, write down “what they did” and “what I choose to do” separately.
One Good Thing Today
Delay one reply until your heart has cooled.
Come Back Tomorrow
Remember that you do not have to turn another person’s wrongdoing into your own suffering.
